Transgender is never a choice, but an illness which needs to be cured. From my perspective, which I think represent most of trans people, we are a group of people who is born in the wrong gender. For all trans people, we would never say life is fair. From the beginning of our life, the fact that we are trapped in the wrong body is already bad enough. We have to go through the doubts of ourselves, even shame. This is our early life. Since we finally realize what we are and decide to cure this disease by surgery, we have to face the abandon and incomprehension from friends and family, even from our parents and this is very common among us. From then on, our life of isolation and bitterness begins. Friendships or romantic relationships end mostly from the moment when we come out and admit who we are. As a result, we can’t be the person we want to be and do things freely as we want.

This is not the first time I’m humiliated in public, but it is definitely the worst one. My girlfriend and I went to a bar to meet guys. She knows I’m a trans. I am very glad that she didn’t abandon me when she knew this. I thought she was my true friend, so I trust her with my life. After a few beer, we both went high. There’s a cute guy offered me a drink, which made me very happy and I gladly accepted it. She was happy for me too. We all had a very good time that night. At the end of the night, he asked for my phone number, I think I like him also, so I gave it to him.

After that, we constantly message each other and occasionally date. I think he really liked me and I liked him very much. During those days, I often talked with my girlfriend about him and said how I felt about him and so on. One day, we both hang out in a dance club. I once again got invited by a cute guy to dance. I refused him for that I don’t want her to feel that I abandoned her for a strange man. Then we continue to dance. But after a while, the man came to me and asked me again. My girlfriend said I can dance with him. So I agreed. After the dance, I can’t find her in the club anymore. I called her but there’s no answer. I was so depressed for that since her already agreed me to dance with that man, why was she still mad at me?

I went home quickly. Before I sleep, I got a message from the guy I met from the bar with my girlfriend. He questioned me: why you didn’t tell me you are a trans? You are so disgusting. I was so panic. I won’t tell anyone what I am until I want to be in a serious relationship with him. Because I think this is my privacy, which I cherish and won’t easily share with others. I only tell those I trust, for that only those people who deserve my trust will understand me. There’s no need to tell a random guy the most private thing about myself and receive his or her incomprehension and disrespect.

I knew it very clearly that it was my girlfriend who told him that. It gradually came to me that maybe it was because she felt a sense of jealous of me for getting more attention that her. She had no idea how envy I was about her for being who she is from the day she was born and don’t have to go through so much mistreat as me. That’s when it hit me that actually I am lucky for that I went through so much hard time, as a result, every little fortunate in life makes me feel lucky and also saved me from being a green-eyed monster.

Life is already hard enough as it is for average people, but imagine how much more difficult it is for people who are transgender. They have to face the raw deal of the public, go through transitioning operation, and some of them even do not have the support of their dearest family and friends. Their life is full of bitterness and isolation. However, there are still some transgender celebrities conquered those difficulties and have been making efforts to speak for the transgender group. Today, transdr lists the top 3 transgender celebrities that we admire.

Laverne Cox
When it comes to transgender celebrity, Laverne Cox is a name that you are probably familiar with. Laverne is a trans woman who first rose to fame after starring on the TV show Orange is the new black. She grew up in Alabama and was constantly bullied for being too feminine. She loved dancing when she was little, especially ballet. But her mom only agreed to sign her in for jazz for that she thinks ballet is too girly. Laverne has always known she was a girl trapped in a boys’ body and pushed those feeling away because she thought that it was sinful. She once even took pills for that she was so ashamed of herself. Lucky for her that she is living the life she’s been dreaming of. Now Laverne is using her fame to fight for trans rights and has made huge improvement on that.

Chaz Bono
When Sonny and Cher welcomed their little girl Chastity into the world, they never imagined that she would transition to a “he”. But that did happen in 2000. Chastity began to present herself as Chaz. In her 40s, Chaz finally performed an operation to have her breasts removed. From then on, she officially turned into “he”. He even began to receive testosterone shots to make him have facial hair and deep voice. He is the first trans man to play a mail rule in a feature film. He also plays a part in The secret life of American team and America horror story. Her mother Cher admitted that she once had difficulty in Chazs’ transition and even now she still  has trouble using the correct pronouns when talking about him. But now, Cher couldn’t be prouder of the achievement Chaz made.

Carmen Carrera
Carmen Carrera is a celebrity trans woman who became famous after appearing on season three of RuPaul’s Drag Race. She actually used to do drag for years before she finally transitioned after being kicked off by the show. The hardest of being a transgender is that the public’s acceptance. But Carmen hopes that her story can help normalize transitioning. These days, Carmen works as a model and walks down pat walks around the world. But have you hear about the drama that she stirred up with Ru? Carmen found herself in hot water after she called out the drag race for pulling a game named female or shemale. She said that shemale is an extremely offensive term and the show should be more respectful of what trans people have to go through. Carmen actually faced a lot of backlash for speaking out. All she wanted is that for people to think about the language they use and for everyone to respect one another.